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Parenting is amazing, isn't it? It has refined and deepened me like nothing else.
They are true. So true.
At 40, I wish that I could claim (or even understand) the simple reliance on God to heal and protect me that our children possess. Don't you?
this story gives me hope...to continue to pray for her....to continue to believe that healing is possible.
thank you for sharing this.
My Caitlin also suffers from psoriasis. I understand your desire to treat sans steroids. Most nights she falls asleep while I scratch her ankles. It's our special time. I wish I could fix it. But I can't. But she knows she is deeply loved, too.
Thanks for sharing!
R
Cheers!
Today at church our pastor said something about children imitating their fathers, and my 7 year old son's face fell but just for a moment. Just for a split second, I was able to see his pain. And it broke my heart.
His dad died when he was 2 and his sister was 5.
So every time I hear a post like this, it prompts me to pray that Christ will fill the gap. That he will send men into my son's life who can love him and just be Jesus with skin on.
As a father of three, with one little girl that also suffers from this (though only a lite case), it really is amazing the things that they can teach us. I am constantly amazed by the strength and humility of spirit that my children are able to exhibit to me. I immediately think of the admonition of our Savior to have "faith like that if a little child." Thanks for sharing your heart.
Chad
what a great dad. your family is beautiful.
thanks for sharing this.
Forget the singlets. They don't know what they're missing.
Being a dad is really the greatest thing that has ever happened to me.
On the side, and I know about unsolicited medical advice etc etc. I spent 2 years with those stupid ointments and what broke the psoriasis for me was UV treatment, 4 months later it was gone. That and I have to watch my protein intake, too much protein makes it flare up again.
Love you guys.
I too have a child with eczema, no where near as badly as your daughters'. But still, it's eczema. I hate to see the those blotches on his legs and hands...............hate to see the cracks and bleeding and be able to do so very little about it. Joel asks when it will go...........'Who knows baby'. I pray for both your 6 year old daughter and our 6 year old son, that we see an end to it SOON!!
Thanks Los for sharing from the heart AGAIN!
No words man. Wow.
Blessings,
Gene
This was such a sweet post, Los.
sohaila sounds like an amazing girl who's going to grow up into an amazing woman of God. you & heather are great parents and role models for the rest of us, even a singleton like me ;)
Thanks for your words on your blog the other day.
Los
Man, I totally need to stay at work this morning, and even though my day began by cuddling both of my daughters... I want to get up from my desk, go to their school, check them out, and spend the day with them.
Luckily, I get to hang out with them this afternoon and all day tomorrow.
I once heard parenting described as having your heart walk around outside of your chest for the rest of your life... and I think the description fits.
grace and peace to you and yours.
i'm the mom of 2 girls, who are now 16 and 20. there have been so many of these moments i can't count. how i wish i had recorded them like you did here.
but from now on i will.
thanks.
My baby is getting married in May.
It is good for me to read how Jesus really intended fatherhood.
I didn't have a dad like you..and i regret that, but reading these posts puts a fire back in my heart toward my heavenly father.
You are an amazing dad, los.
please don't ever get discouraged about that.
your girls will grow up to be radiant, beautiful & have a gracelike confidence. be proud!
and be encouraged!
Really appreciate it.
Amazing strength that I, as a 28 year old mom of 2 girls, do not have.
Sohaila is an amazing little girl!
she is very special.
yes, i cried too. as a mom I feel these same emotions for my own daughter.
as a multiple allergy sufferer who has lived with rashes and reactions for years...50 years to be exact....may I share the one thing that has changed my life?? Going GLUTEN FREE. No more steroids, no more inflammation, rashes.
Just wanted to share this for those who might be searching for a cause.
And good for you guys for staying away from the steroids! There ARE other options...lots of them! If you haven't already tried it pick up a tub of Aquaphor and cake that stuff every night right after you get out of the bath!
Once when she was 2, about six months after being diagnosed, she was sitting in her car seat and she grabbed her medic alert bracelet and said "mommy when I grow up I wont have diabetes anymore and I can take this bracelet off" I starred straight ahead driving so she wouldnt see me weeping as I told her that unless God healed her or doctors found a cure, she would always have diabetes.
There is NOTHING like the pain you feel when your kids are in pain. It is overwhelming but like you said, they make you so proud and bursting with love and joy when they handle it all way better then we could.
On a related note, I applaud you for wanting to avoid the steroids. I had HORRIBLE acne in college and did everything I could to avoid all the nasy meds that doctors wanted to put me on. Arbonne's acne line was what finally made my acne go away.
They also sell a baby lotion that is all-natural. A grown-man friend of mine used it on his eczema that he'd had for years and it went away completely without any side-effect. I can get you some samples, or I'm sure there are plenty of reps in the Atlanta area. You can even get a sort of "membership number" to get the products at a 35% discount. Check out their website or shoot me an email if you want some more info. I'm happy to help.
Moving to Chicago has made us realize how many children don't have actively involved, loving fathers in their lives - especially children of color. My husband gets stares when he is out with the kids and being the great dad he is. Several strangers have actually commented on how nice it is to see.
Thank for loving your kids w/ your whole heart!
I am so madly in love with my children that I sometimes cry just thinking about them. It truly is a different kind of love that a person will never know until they are a parent.
Thanks for sharing. And most of all, for loving your child.
God bless.
Thanks for a wonderful post
I have watched in awe as he holds his head high when people question him abotu why he does these strange things. I have heard him poke fun at himself at times. and I have listened as he pours his heart out to God begging for Him to heal him before he wakes up in the mornings.
I have grown because of him. I have learned what trust and faith are really all about because of him. I thought that I understood how God loved me before I was a mom, but I think I am only now seeing glimpses of the depth of what He feels for me.
thanks for this beautiful reminder tonight. Blessings on you and your family. and many praises for a healing!!
my friend. it is these posts that make your community so large and faithful. it's your heart that shares these things that make your friends love you (in spite of yourself) and it's this gift that helps you to truly be authentic and share Jesus' love with the world.
I was just telling my man the other day about how passionately you write sometimes. Remember, LONG, long time ago... I don't even think you and Heather were married yet, and you guys got into a car accident? You emailed those of us "few" sandals members and shared your heart about the whole event. it was SO powerful. i've never forgotten. i thought to myself back then that you truly loved her and it was so beautiful.
thank you for always being real and authentic...and not bending or changing to please the masses. miss you my friend. i'm hoping to be able to stop by and get a squeeze on 12/12 when i'm out there for a few hours...rhi
My 10 year old daughter has had a long term bladder problem that is very embarrassing when it often happened in public. She was the same, always acting brave, most of the time acting like there never was a problem and us having to shield her from hurtful words of others.
When she turned 9 the problem started to go away. We had tried to gently talk to her about it in the past, and sometimes her hurt would show and she would say, "I don't want this problem mommy". Our hearts would break for her but medically the doctors said it was something she would need to out grow. I would have worn a bag the rest of my life if I thought she could not have had this problem for 10 years, seeing her hurting heart has killed me as a parent!
One day her eyes lit up when I told her how many days it had been since she had had an accident, she IMMEDIATELY said, maybe I can have someone spend the night now, maybe I can go on the fifth grade field trip now. She was so excited. I went in the other room and wept because I realized she was always thinking about it, even though she did not talk about it or complain.
My Candy has more courage than I. She is brave and beautiful. I am asking God to heal her heart and insecurities she has hidden so well.
Happily I can report she is almost 100% better. She has spent the night with friends and had a couple spend the night. I realize how it still holds her back at times, I think the fear. She is one brave little girl.
I, too, am the father of a little girl (and 2 little boys as well) that amazes me. Reading about the strength of your daughter made me reflect on my own.
You hit the nail on the head. Until you're a parent, there's no way you'll understand things like this. It reminds me of The Gospel.
The Bible says that it's message is foolishness to those who don't believe...but to those who believe, it is the Power of God. Being a parent is the same way. If you're not one...it just won't make sense. But once you have children of your own, it's immediately who you are...no explanation possible or necessary.
Thanks for a great post.
Thank God.
...and maybe the reason Christ taught by story....